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How to raise a confident child

Jenni Bell Award Winning Therapist DIPHYP CHYP CMH RTT CNLP GHSQ

Advanced RTT Therapist and Trainer, Advanced Clinical Hypnotherapist & NLP Practitioner Therapy that works from the comfort of your own home

The first ten years of life are a crucial period of development because they set the foundation for a child's future personality, behaviour, and coping mechanisms. This is why they are often referred to as the blueprint for future reactions.

During this period, a child is exposed to many new experiences, relationships, and emotions, and they learn how to interact with the world around them. This is when they form their first impressions, beliefs, and attitudes, which can shape their behaviour and reactions later in life.

The way that a child is raised, the relationships they form with their caregivers, and the experiences they have during these years can all have a significant impact on their development. For example, a child who is consistently nurtured and receives positive reinforcement is likely to develop a healthy self-esteem and feel confident in their abilities. On the other hand, a child who experiences trauma, neglect, or abuse may develop negative coping mechanisms and struggle with self-worth later in life.

In short, the first ten years of life are a critical period for shaping a child's future because it sets the stage for their future personality, behaviour, and reactions.

Here are ten things you can tell your children to help boost their self-esteem:

  1. I love you just the way you are." This sends a clear message that they are accepted and valued, regardless of their accomplishments or mistakes.

  2. "You are capable and strong." Encourage them to believe in their abilities and remind them that they have what it takes to succeed.

  3. "It's okay to make mistakes." Emphasize that everyone makes mistakes and that it's a natural part of the learning process.

  4. "You are unique and special." Celebrate your child's individuality and let them know that there is no one quite like them.

  5. "I am proud of you." Let your child know that you are proud of their efforts and accomplishments, big or small.

  6. "You are a good person." Reinforce positive character traits and emphasize their strengths and inner qualities.

  7. "It's okay to say 'no'". Teach your child to set boundaries and to stand up for themselves when they feel uncomfortable.

  8. "You are in control of your emotions." Empower your child to manage their emotions and to make positive choices in their behaviour.

  9. "You can do anything you set your mind to." Encourage your child to dream big and to believe in their potential.

  10. "I believe in you." Let your child know that you have confidence in their abilities and that you support them in all their endeavour's.

  11. By reinforcing these positive messages, you can help build your child's self-esteem and instil in them the confidence they need to succeed in life.

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